What do you do when bad news comes your way?

We just got back our power and it was nice to eat a warm meal. The winds are still pretty strong here but the sun is such a beautiful sight.

What do you do when bad news comes your way?

I want to talk a little bit about the fear and anxiety that comes with a diagnosis. It can go both ways based in totality by the diagnostic. If it’s a small matter, relief follows. But what happens when it’s not a small matter, what happens when the road ahead begins to look longer and far scarier than originally perceived?

First you must calm down the torrent of fear and anxiety that may whirlpool in your brain after hearing the diagnostic that can sound something close to a sentence.

Pray! Pray with a clear mind and with a hopeful spirit. Have faith to believe the very words you  heard  so many times before but never had to really apply them in your life, until now.

Don’t make up “worse case scenarios!”, don’t go there!, instead look at your best case scenarios. You will not be the scary story of a person you once knew, or their relative or someone you heard about it in the past and brushed it aside with a” that’s so terrible” sort of thinking.

Don’t make up symptoms that may not be there. Research all possible angles LOOKING for a positive testimony and the how to’s behind it. Don’t allow morbid thoughts to take over, think rational about the situation in front of you as if  you’re looking for an answer, than have faith the answer will come. ( Don’t go on the other extreme either by saying “I leave it all in the hands of God WITHOUT doing anything about it. That’s pure laziness. You have to fight for your health. There is no other way to put it, but in your fight and on the road to recovery make sure you have God yon your side. Sometimes, that simply means surround yourself with people who believe for healing, that are willing to fight alongside yourself, that love you in your low times (for they will surely come), that will laugh with you through every single victory, pray with you and for you when you’re too weak to do it alone, advise you well, encourage you when you feel like there’s no point going on.

Listen to your gut. Doctors are humans beings with a particular knowledge and some are driven by wrong reasons, so you have to be your best advocate other wise you will end up a victim of lack-of-concern, money-making, personal agendas and inaptitude.

Educate yourself properly, not through the story of so and so, but through facts. Learn about alternative medication, like a better diet or life style.

Don’t accept your new diagnosis as your new life-style!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s an enemy! It’s here to kill and destroy you, your joy, your hope, your smile, your courage, your time spent with loved ones, your clarity of mind, your faith in God, your beauty both body and mind followed by the spirit. This is a serious enemy and its full intent is to destroy you. Treat it as such! Your family, friends and future loves one need you alive and well:) God needs you to fight so you can praise him by telling everyone around you how He help you overcome. You’re not weak! You may feel weak, but that does not mean that you’re weak. You’re simply going through a battle and sometimes this battle is overwhelmingly strong but not necessarily fatal.

Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re healed. Sounds crazy? You do it everytime you tell yourself that you’re fat, or your hips are too big, or your breast too small, or you’re not tall enough, or you’re bald etc. So why not tell yourself something you wan to happen to you, like being healed. Christ died already for us to have that healing, why not believe it?

Don’t allow negative people around. Don’t listen, watch or read popular information that shows death, sickness and disease. It’s very tempting because you know exactly how it feels to be there, but unless you want to stay there, don’t do it.

Even when you don’t feel like, imagine yourself healthy, doing things you love with the people you love:) Imagine your healthy self in the near future.

Pray and believe that God healed you! Than brag about the way he went about it and did it.

P.S. I have days that are absolutely awful and I’m tempted to give up because it feels easier than continuing to fight. But I imagine how devastated I would be if my husband or kids gave up if they were in my shoes and for their sake I keep fighting. We need those visual images when death seems to knock on the door and you may be tempted to open and let it in. But it’s not over unless we make it happen.

I pray this may be of some help to you. Keep your chin up and smile back at sickness with a stubborn resolution to beat it:)

La noi sint vijelii si sa luat curentul vreo patru ore. Dar a venit inapoi sint am fost fericita sa maninc ceva cald.

Ce iti spui tie in sine cind vin greautati neasteptate?

Vreau sa vorbesc un pic de frica si panica care vine cu un diagnostic de sanatate neplacut. Unele diagnostice sint rudimentare, ca atare nu le dam prea multa importanta ca stim ca-i foarte temporar si sanatatea va veni urma fara mari probleme. Dar ce se intimpla cind diagnosticu e grav si calea spre insanatosire este mult mai lunga sau mai subreda decit ti-ai imaginat?

Primul lucru, incearca sa-ti calmezi ploaia torentiala formata din frica si panica care-ti va invada creierul imediat dupa ce ai auzit diagnosticul care suna ca o sentinta.

Roaga-te! Roaga-te cu o minte clara si cu un spirit plin de speranta. Ai credinta si crede cuvintele care poate pina acuma numai le-ai auzit dar nu a fost necesar sa le pui in practica inca.

Nu asculta si crede cazuri de boala cu sfirsit neplacut vorbite fara cuget sau intelepciune de guri fara intelepciune. In loc, cauta pe cei care au trecuit biruitori prin situatii similare si ascultale sfaturile. Nu decide ca tu vei fi cazul cel mai rau, cu simptomele cele mai urite si cu sfirsitul cel mai crunt. Nu deschide urechea la gurile pline de birfa care vor sa imprastie numai vesti proaste si fara speranta.

Nu-ti imagina simptome pe care nu le ai, simplu pentru ca zice careva ca ar trebui sa le ai in cazul tau. Educate bine de la surse de incredere, uitindu-te dupa mod de rezolvare si insanatosire. Alunga ginduri morbide, gindeste rational si ai credinta ca raspunsul de la D-zeu (prin doctori sau alte surse) va aparea. Pe de alta parte nu spune “faca-se voia Lui” FARA sa incerci sa lupti si sa gasesti raspunsuri pentru insanatosire. Asta este o scuza pentru lenevie. Tu trebuie sa lupti pentru sanatetea si insanatosirea ta!

Nu acepta ce spune numai un doctor, ci incearca sa gasesti alte opinii de la alti doctori care pot avea mai multa experienta in a trata boala.

Nu-ti acepta diagnosticul ca noul mod de viata!!!!!!!!!!! Este un dusman! A venit sa distruga si sa omoare. sa-ti distruga fericirea, speranta, curaju, timpul petrecut alaturi de cei dragi, claritatea mintii, credinta in D-zeu, frumusetea inauntrica si cea care se vede (corpul). Asta este un dusman cu intentia sa te distruga. Trateaza-l ca atare! Nu fa pact de prietenie cu boala si incepe a spune cuvinte; pai boala me. Familia ta, prietenii tai si cei dragi care inca nu i-ai intilnit au nevoie de tine in deplina sanatate. D-zeu vrea ca tu sa lupti si sa vezi boala ca pe dusmanul care de fapt este, si dupa ce te vindeci sa-i dai slava Lui prin cuvintele tale de proslavire:) Tu nu esti slab (slaba)! Poate ai momente de slabiciune, (toti avem momentele astea, absolut toti de pe pamint), dar asta nu inseamna ca esti slab (slaba), ci ca au venit peste tine anumite momente care te fac sa cazi momentar, dar deasta ai nevoie de oameni de baza si incredere, care te pot sustine si sprijini atunci cind esti cu fata la pamint. Cunosc cultura Romaneasca (de fapt e la fel in toata parte Europei de Est) unde se crede ca esti slab daca experimentezi slabiciuni in viata. Dar nu este Biblic felul asta de a gindi si vedea lucrurile. De asta D-zeu ne sfatueste sa fim alturi de cei cazuti, sa-i sustinem si sa-i incurajam ca intr-o buna zi tu vei avea nevoie de aceeasi incurajare care o dai altuia in momentul greau.

Nu acepta sa asculti sfaturi negaitve si pline de cuvinte de frica. Nu te uita sau citi informatii pline de boala, moarte sau deznadejde.

Chiar daca nu crezi inca, imagineaza-te in viitorul apropriat plin the sanatate alaturi de cei dragi.

Roaga-te si crede ca D-zeu te-a vindecat desi poate nu experimentezi pe deplin simptomele. De obicei crezi prima data si pe urma simptomele vin.

p.s. Sint zile in viata mea in momentul de fata care sint groaznice din punct de vedere a suferintei si in acele momente sint temptata sa ma las batuta ca-i mult mai usor decit sa lupt in continuare. Dar ma gindesc cum m-as simti eu daca (pusi in aceeasi situatie) copii mei sau sotul meu sar lasa batuti. Durerea in suflet ca ias pierde e asa de mare ca-mi da vlaga sa lupt in continure. Si trebuie sa incercam sa ne punem in papucii altora inainte de a decide cei mai usor pentru noi.

Ma rog ca Bunul D-zeu sa va dea putere sa mergeti in continuare cu tarie reinointa:)

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