Alex Biruitorul

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Prima fotografie, de la stinga la dreapta: Fanu, Alex si Tibi

A doua fotografie, de la stinga la dreapta: Alex, Iuli, Cornelia si Mia in vacanta, vara asta.

Al zece-lea, Alex sa nascut cu doua luni inainte de Revolutia din 1989 si in general a fost un copil fericit si plin de viata:) Datorita virstei apropiate intre ei, nu pot vorbi de Alex fara sa-l implic si pe Fanu (numarul unsprezece). Amindoi au fost atit frati dar si buni prieteni, petrecind ore cu masinutele, jucindu-se, in aceelasi timp imaginindu-si o lume plina de aventuri si planificind cum sa ajute cind pe unul cind pe altul, in viitor, cind vor creste ei mari:) Afara, in fata blocului tot timpul jucau in aceeasi echipa si se alegeau unul pe altul ca parteneri in jocurile copilaresti din fata blocului. In stresul momentelor de boala a lui Fanu, Alex nu a fost dus la spital si nu a putut sa-si is ramas bun de la Fanu. Alex a avut numai 13 ani cind fratele, si in aceelasi timp bunul lui prieten a murit si a luat ceva timp sa treaca peste durerea care moartea in general aduce cind rupe din mijlocul nostru pe careva iubit. In shimb la visat, dupa ce a murit, si stiau amindoi acest fact, si Alex la intrebat pe Fanu sa-i arate taietura facuta pe mijloc la autopsie. Fanu sa dezbracat si i-a aratat-o.

Plina de durere si amaraciune, mama sa mutat la Vilcele, lasind in urma pe Iulian, Tibi, Alex si Oana, la mila tatalui, care a continuat abuzul dar si o lipsa de grija. Au suferit de foame si au trebuit sa se descurce fiecare cum a putut (fact care l-am aflat numai recent).

Dupa ce a terminat liceul, Alex a plecat pentru o luna in vizita la Delia, si a lucrat in constructii cu Sami, sotul lui Delia. Atunci ei stateau in Roma, Italia. Ca recompensa i sa cumparat primul laptop. Intors in Hunedoara, a dorit sa intre la facultate dar lipsa de ajutor financiar la fortat sa se uite dupa o pozitie de lucrul. A gasit de lucru la o fabrica de cablaj pentru interioarele masinilor la Deva, un oras numai 30 minute distanta de Hunedoara.

Pe un site crestin numit “Pom verde” a intilnit-o pe Mia, care avea acelasi nume de familie, Damean. Crezind ca-i ruda a intrat in conversatie dar curind a aflat ca Mia nu inrudita cu el. Asa a inceput curtarea. Un lucru foarte important pentru amandoi a fost Dumnezeu in relatia lor si binecuvintarea Lui, are au primit-o amandoi intr-un interval de 24 de ore, printr-un semn nedezvaluit unul la altul decit dupa ce l-au primit. Nunta a fost la Ludos, de unde e Mia. Dar viata finaciara dupa era grea. Ca electrician Alex facea bani lucrind ori unde prindea ceva de lucru, fie la zugravit, fie pus de faianta dar in ciuda toate eforturilor deabea se puteau intretine. Au hotarit sa plece o luna in Portugalia unde parintii lui Mia lucrau. Alex si-a gasit de lucru acolo fapt care i-au facut sa se mute definitiv in Portugalia acuma trei ani si usor, usor sau ridicat financiar, Alex ca electrician si intretinere generala a unei case, Mia ca artist de machiaj. Recent Mia si-a gasit un post de munca ca chelnerita.

Mia si Alex stiu cum sa se bucure de viata, si mereu viziteaza locuri frumoase in Portugalia, maninca mincaruri foarte bune la restaurant (de fapt tata lui Mia lucreaza la un restaurant ca bucatar si copii il viziteaza des:).

Alex a ales sa fie fericit in viata si sa lase in trecut durerea trecutului, fapt care-l apreciez mult la el. Cicatrice inca este si ranile inca dor, dar usor, usor cu ajutorul Bunului Dumnezeu se vindeca ranile atit in el cit si in restul fratilor si surorilor). In realitate numai Bunul Dumnezeu ne-a alinat la toti durerile si ne-a aratat caile de vindecare. Fara el si binecuvintarile lui in viata noastra nu am fi putut avea succes.

Ma bucur ori de cite ori ii vad rizind si ori de cite ori aud ceva bun ca sa intimplat in viata lor:) Doamne multumim mult de toate:)

Alex the Overcomer

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First picture left to right: Fanu and Alex- the two buddies:)

Second picture: Alex and his wife, Mia:)

Born number ten in our family, Alex came into the world only couple months before the 1989 Eastern Block revolution and the fall of communism. He was a happy child:) I do believe between Iulian and Alex my mother lost another baby. Due to the small gap of only one year and a half in age, Alex and Fanu (number eleven) had a very close relationship. The two buddies spent long hours playing with their toy cars, building imaginary adventures and charitable work plans together. Outside, in the courtyard, they stuck together and always picked each other on the same team, either for a game of soccer or tennis. It’s hard talking about Alex’s childhood without mentioning Fanu, since the two were very close. Their friendship was special:) Alex was only 13 years old when his best friend and brother, Fanu, died and he never got the opportunity to say good by to his little brother and best friend. He had a dream soon after and asked Fanu to show him his disection cut, which Fanu did so.

Soon after Fanu’s death my mother moved in Vilcele, full of grief, and left Alex, Oana and Iulian behind in Hunedoara at my father’s mercy who both starved and abused them.

After he graduated from high school, Alex left for Roma, Italy and lived with Delia, while working with Sami, Delia’s husband, in construction. There he gained his first electronic item in the form of a laptop. Back in Hunedoara he tried to go to collage but did not have the means to do so and settled for a job in the factory of electric wiring system from Deva, a city 30 minutes away from Hunedoara; also the same city Nadia Comaneci trained in.

On a Cristian single site “Pom Verde” he met Mia, who had the same last name, Damean. Thinking she was related to us, Alex began a conversation but it turned out she was not related and they began dating. One thing was very important for the both of them, a sign from God showing they were meant to be together and they got it within 24 hours of each other. After the wedding, a wedding I could not attend, Alex moved to Ludos, where Mia was from and worked hard trying to provide, but they lived paycheck to paycheck and Alex’s skills as an electrician only went so far. Mia’s parents lived in Portugal and the newly wedded couple decided to go visit them for a month, but soon Alex found work and they moved to Portugal permanently where they live to this day. It’s been three years already and they still love it in Portugal having lots of fun together any opportunity they get. You should see the pictures of the delicious foods they send us on a regular bases. Alex works mainly as an electrician as well as a maintenance man and Mia does make-up for weddings and special occasions part-time and recently got a job as a waitress.

The two of them sure have so much fun together, always visiting nice parts of Portugal or enjoying a nice evening out. Mia’s father works as a chef in a restaurant and the two of them visit him quite often:) Their lives are simple and full of happiness. I’m so very glad to see that.

Alex protects his small family fiercely from his abusive father and in general does not have much contact with him. He’s chosen to be happy. Good for him:) I applaud that decision. I’ve gotten to know Alex more so in his early twenties and I’m so glad I did. He’s a great guy:)

P.S “Pom Verde” web site was introduced to Iulian and Oana by Alex, where all three met their spouses.