Iulian cel de neinvins

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Prima fotografie: Iulian

A doua fotografie: Iulian in spital anul acesta inainte de a avea operatie.

A treia fotografie: Cornelia la visitat la spital (la lucru).

Numarul opt in familie, Iulian era un copil sensibil dar puternic. Ca adult e la fel:) Nu conteaza de cite ori viata il loveste, Iulian se ridica inapoi si confrunta totul cu un curaj puternic. Iuli este un prieten extrem de credincious (nu numai in sensul spiritual). Desi e singurul care arata foarte mult cu tatal nostru, Iuli nu are caracterul tatalui. Alex al meu seamana foarte mult cu Iuli si zimbesc ori de cite ori ma uit la fiul meu:) Adolescenta ia fost bintuita de episoadele de abuz al tatalui si absenta mamei, care sa mutat la casa din Vilcele in timpul scolii generale, lasindu-i singuri. Scoala ia fortat pe fratii mei mai mici sa locuiasca in Hunedoara, si mergeau la Vilcele la sfirsit de saptamina sau in timpul vacantei, dar erau pusi la munca des. Parasi-ti, aveau de aface cu agresiunea lui tata si lipsa de mincare.

Dupa liceu, Iuli sa mutat la Arad cu Alin unde a inceput facultatea, dar din nefericire nu a putut termina deoarece Alin sa mutat in Germania, cu lucru si Iuli a ramas singur iara, fortindu-l sa se intoarca in Hunedoara. Acolo a facut doua facultati simultan, una la asistenta medicala si cealalta in management. Le-a terminat pe amindoua dar lipsa de posturi de munca in Hunedoara, la fortat sa petreaca mult timp la Vilcele. Cred ca si dorul de mama la impins acolo:) A muncit mult la casa, in gradina si pe urma in constructii alaturi de Ionel Albescu, un om bun si pastorul bisericii locale. In Ionel, Iuli a gasit un exemplu de tata si un refugiu emotional, de la care a invatat multe lucruri bune atit in domeniul spiritual dar si cel emotional. Asa a devenit Ionel un tata adoptiv, si Iuli’l considera si in ziua de azi ca tata. Tot in perioada aceia la intilnit si pe Adrian Bandila, care i-a devenit un prieten foarte apropriat, ca un frate. Cu fratii lui mai mari plecati in alte orase cu lucru sau casatoriti, Iuli a fost cam singur. El si Leo, au avut o relatie frumoasa, precum si cu ceilalti mai mici.

Alex la introdus pe Iuli la un site crestin “Pom Verde” unde a intilnit-o pe Cornelia, o fata foarte frumoasa si finuta. Cornelia locuia in Londra, Anglia cu surorile ei si lucra. Intr-un final Iuli a plecat in Anglia si a lucrat in constructii. Nunta lor a fost in 2013, si am putut participa si noi (ultima data cind am vizitat Romania) si ne-am bucurat impreauna cu intreaga familie (cu exceptia lui Oana, care lucra in Italia).

Dupa nunta Iuli a lucrat in constructie ceva timp si in ultimii doi ani lucreaza ca asistent medical intr-unul din spitalele Londrei.

In ultimul an Cornelia si Iulian au trecut prin niste momente foarte grele, dar Iulian infrunta totul cu o atitudine puternica. Desi in dureri enorme de la pietrele de rinichi, Iuli a confruntat fiecare zi cu o perseverenta titanica.

Sint foarte mindra de el si deabea astept sa vad ce binecuvintari va primi in viitor:)

Iulian the Invincible

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First picture left to right: Tibi (worried not to get hit), Fanu, Oana, Alex and Iulian:)

Second picture: Iulian

Third picture: my son Alex who looks so much like Iulian:)

Fourth picture: Iulian and his wife, Cornelia, taken a few days ago:)

Born the ninth in the family, Iulian is a sensitive yet strong soul. No matter how many times life has knocked him down, Iuli (short for Iulian), always gets up and walks right back in the middle of it. He’s a fiercely faithful friend 🙂 He’s also the one that looks just like my father and I know that’s not a compliment for Iuli. My son Alex has lots of Iulian resemblances, and I smile often when I look at Alex. Through him I feel like I have a piece of home:) Iuli’s adolescence, hunted by my farther’s angry outbursts, was not an easy one yet he but remained a very faithful son during that period.

After his high-school graduation in Hunedoara, Iuli moved in Arad with Alin and began collage but was forced to quit in the middle of it, due to Alin’s work transfer into Germany. Once Alin left, there was nothing left for Iuli in Arad so he returned in Hunedoara, where he attended, simultaneously, two collages: one for nursing and  the other for management. He graduated from both, but work was scarce in Hunedoara. Unable to find work in either field he spent a lot of time in Vilcele, where my parents had a house. By now my mom lived there round-the-clock, visiting Hunedoara and her children rarely. School kept my siblings in Hunedoara and summer vacation was spent in Vilcele. With his older siblings gone, some of them married while others working in different cities (as far away from home as they could possibly get), and his mother living in Vilcele, Iuli grew up around our father’s presence around while lacking a mother’s warm embrace. I think he spent a lot of time in Vilcele just to be closer to our mother. There he worked daily, doing hard labor around the house and garden until he met Ionel, and older man and the pastor of the local church, and shoulder to shoulder they worked in constructions where he got to know the man better. Quickly, Ionel became a father figure for Iulian. That’s where Iuli found refuge as he listened to the older man’s good advise regarding a healthy spiritual walk and healing his emotionally wounded soul. Ionel became Iuli’s adoptive father and to this day it remains so. Another refuge for Iuli was Adrian Bandila, a brother figure which brought a healthy balance in a shadowy world.

Through a Christian date line, Iulian met Cornelia, a very sweet and naturally beautiful girl. Cornelia lived in London, England with some of her siblings and worked there as well. Iuli left for England, eventually, where he worked in construction a few years but always kept in touch with Ionel and Adrian. Their wedding in Hunedoara was beautiful and Chet and I had the privilege to attend. After the wedding together they moved back in London where Iuli worked in construction a while but the past two years he’s worked as a medical male nurse in one of London’s hospitals, where he’s still employed.. Cornelia works as a preschool teacher.

The past year, both Iuli and Cornelia have gone through some very hard times, but have managed to pull through. Iuli had a nasty kidney stone that put him in an intense painful state and a couple unsuccessful minor operations. Despite it all, he lived life with great humor but it was clear to us that he was in a lot of pain, non-stop. Cornelia lost a lot as well, but that’s a personal matter and we’ll leave it at that.

I’m so very proud of Iulian, who stood tall in the face of so much pain the past few years. Any other person my have broken under such weight, but not Iuli:) Thank you God for the strength you’ve put in Iulian and I’m looking forward to see what’s in store for his future:)